The Best Man's Checklist


Before the Wedding

  • Arrange for the bachelors' dinner and/or party.
  • Select a gift for the groom.
  • Act as a liaison for the groom’s friends and family.
  • Confirm honeymoon travel arrangements.
  • Provide transportation for the groom to the ceremony and then to the reception.

Before Leaving for the Wedding Ceremony

  • Help the groom dress and finish packing.
  • Insure that the car is packed for the honeymoon.
  • Insure there is gas in the groom's car and/or the honeymoon car.
  • Check for the wedding ring.
  • Prepare a reception speech/toast.

Carry these items as necessary:

  • Travel tickets, passport, ID, etc.
  • Car keys
  • Money or travelers checks
  • Handkerchief
  • Any gifts or acknowledgments
  • Checkbook or credit card for any needed payments.

Before Walking Down the Aisle and Following the Ceremony

Ensure that the groom:

  • Uses the restroom.
  • His shoes are tied.
  • His fly is zipped.
  • His face and hair are in order.
  • If vows are written, that he has them in his possession.
  • Nothing’s between his teeth.
  • Fear and second thoughts are calmed and put to rest.
  • Signs the marriage license.
  • Pay the clergy fee.

During and After the Reception

The best man may need to arrive early and remain a little after, even after the bride and groom departs. He may need to pay the vendors on the groom's behalf, and ensure that the reception facility is left in good order. Review the Best Man's Checklist with the Groom a couple of days before the wedding date.

  • Check the setup of musicians or DJ.
  • Make the speech to the bride and groom.
  • Offer the first toast.
  • Dance with the bride and her attendants.
  • Read telegrams or special mail for the bride and groom.
  • Arrange for the return of all the tuxedo/suit rentals by the prearranged deadline.


The Best Man’s Panic Kit for the Groom

Here are some helpful items that the best man should have with him for any unforeseen moments. Throw them in a zip-up bag and keep them handy.

  • Tylenol
  • Antacid
  • Hair comb or brush
  • Black magic marker
  • Small towel or paper towels
  • Hair gel or hairspray
  • Extra toothbrush and toothpaste
  • Deodorant
  • Mouthwash